Ic3PrIncZ in vse ostale, jaz svetujem vsem ženskam, ki jim je še zdaj njihova anatomija in seksualnost delno neznanka (pa ne po njihovi krivdi), da si preberejo naslednji odlomek iz članka (ki je bil napisan že v 70ih !).
The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm by Anne Koedt (1970)
(Editor s Note: This the classic article on women s sexuality by the NY feminist Anne Koedt. It is one of the most popular pages on the site. This is the complete version.)
Whenever female orgasm and frigidity are discussed, a false distinction is made between the vaginal and the clitoral orgasm. Frigidity has generally been defined by men as the failure of women to have vaginal orgasms. Actually the vagina is not a highly sensitive area and is not constructed to achieve orgasm. It is the clitoris which is the center of sexual sensitivity and which is the female equivalent of the penis.
I think this explains a great many things: First of all, the fact that the so-called frigidity rate among women is phenomenally high. Rather than tracing female frigidity to the false assumptions about female anatomy, our "experts" have declared frigidity a psychological problem of women. Those women who complained about it were recommended psychiatrists, so that they might discover their "problem" -diagnosed generally as a failure to adjust to their role as women.
The facts of female anatomy and sexual response tell a different story. Although there are many areas for sexual arousal, there is only one area for sexual climax; that area is the clitoris. All orgasms are extensions of sensation from this area. Since the clitoris is not necessarily stimulated sufficiently in the conventional sexual positions, we are left "frigid."
Aside from physical stimulation, which is the common cause of orgasm for most people, there is also stimulation through primarily mental processes. Some women, for example, may achieve orgasm through sexual fantasies, or through fetishes. However, while the stimulation may be psychological, the orgasm manifests itself physically. Thus, while the cause is psychological, the effect is still physical, and the orgasm necessarily takes place in the sexual organ equipped for sexual climax, the clitoris. The orgasm experience may also differ in degree of intensity - some more localized, and some more diffuse and sensitive. But they are all clitoral orgasms.
All this leads to some interesting questions about conventional sex and our role in it. Men have orgasms essentially by friction with the vagina, not the clitoral area, which is external and not able to cause friction the way penetration does. Women have thus been defined sexually in terms of what pleases men; our own biology has not been properly analyzed. Instead, we are fed the myth of the liberated woman and her vaginal orgasm - an orgasm which in fact does not exist.
What we must do is redefine our sexuality. We must discard the "normal" concepts of sex and create new guidelines which take into account mutual sexual enjoyment. While the idea of mutual enjoyment is liberally applauded in marriage manuals, it is not followed to its logical conclusion. We must begin to demand that if certain sexual positions now defined as "standard" are not mutually conducive to orgasm, they no longer be defined as standard. New techniques must be used or devised which transform this particular aspect of our current sexual exploitation.
Za podrobnejšo razjasnitev, zakaj je sploh prišlo do tako napačnega videnja (saj ni težko uganiti) ženskega orgazma in seksualnosti, si lahko preberete še nadaljevanje tegale članka na tejle spletni strani:
http://www.cwluherstory.com/CWLUArchive/vaginalmyth.html
Mislim, saj sploh ni čudno, da imamo težave, saj z vseh strani slišimo pojme, kot je točka G, pa vaginalni vs. kakšen drugi orgazem. Še moj fant potihem upa, da bom kdaj doživela ta vaginalni orgazem, KI NE OBSTAJA (pa on sploh ni eden od tistih butljev, ki o ženskah vedo isto, kot nič).
Btw na tejle isti (http://www.cwluherstory.com/CWLUArchive) spletni strani je še nekaj zanimivih člankov o ženski seksualnosti, napisanih z ženske perspektive. Naj vas ne odbije dejstvo, da gre za članke neofeminističnih avtoric (vem, da nekatere ženske že beseda feminizem plaši, saj ni čudnega, da je v izrazito patriarhalni družbi dobilo negativen prizvok nekaj, kar trese njene temelje in daje besedo tudi nežnejšemu spolu, ki še ne dolgo od tega ni imel niti osnovnih pravic :).
Pa bi rekla, da še kako drži!!
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Meg in Tikka tole je zadetek v polno in je prav, da se pišejo take stvari, ker sem prepičana, da večina žensk(sploh mlajše in naivnejše generacije) misli, da so frigidne/ nesposobne ali tako kot je napisala Meg, da imajo neke travme iz otroštva - popoln nesmisel, v resnici pa so povsem normalne in se lahko poistovetijo z večinskim procentom ostalih žensk (seveda obstaja nek mali procent žensk na svetu, ki zares doživljajo multiple orgazme in procent tistih, ki so zares firigdne in travmatizirane)! 
), saj dejansko vsebuje vse od Ado ž, natančno obravnava zakaj pride do orgazma, zakaj ne pride, frigidnost, nimfomanijo, razlike med moškim in žensko, žensko pojmovanje spolnosti, moško ipd. Ni da ni. Večina knjig se osredotoča na eno področje (ali poživitev spolnosti, ali osnove, Tantra, medicinski vidiki, tale pa je vse v enem na zelo lep način napisano in razloženo)
Drugič se mi vsekakor ne bo dalo pisati.
